By Jay Pee
As in any relationship, complacency can emerge. You become familiar, comfortable with one another and before you expect it, the fire you once felt is diminishing. This is a common fact of marriage. I see you nodding your head and thinking, "yep, that's us. I want to save my marriage before it gets dull and lost in responsibility". Good for you! You've found yourself in the best place. Let's see what you should do to rekindle the flame that brought you together initially.
Do you remember your very first date together? Where was it? What did you do? What were you wearing? Was it raining, cold, sunny, was it warm? What made your day special? Talk about this together with your spouse. Reminisce. Bring back the emotions you experienced on that day. After all, on that day led to another and the next and eventually into a proposal, right? Go back in time. You'll see the passion once again make each other's eyes sparkle. Oh, the butterflies on that day! Remember? Bring out the photos from when you initially met. Look at the way you looked at each other! Oh, the love!
If you are a couple with children, you understand their needs take precedence over your own. This is how and when a couple's passion passes the wayside without realizing it. Remember, at first you're separate individuals with like interests which brought you together as a couple in the first place. Those interests were an essential aspect in your hearts uniting and wanting to spend your whole lives together. Remember? Remember? Good, that's a start! Surprise your spouse with a valentine's day card in August. Bring home flowers for no reason at all. Sneak up behind your spouse while making dinner or doing the laundry and kiss his/her neck. Spark the tingle that results in a passionate kiss (and maybe more!). Remind yourselves of the passion you shared spontaneously once upon a time ago!
Setting aside a date night is a thing you hear regularly. That too can become routine and boring. Instead, you could start to set up a bucket list and begin checking off all the items one at a time together! What were your dreams when you became a couple? Did you imagine riding a hot air balloon? Learning how to kayak? Do you wish to learn to water ski? What were your dreams? Dreams are supposed to be realized. They are whatever you look forward to achieving. I'm not referring to becoming president of your company that you work. On the other hand, perhaps you have imagined leaving the business enterprise and gone into business for yourselves? What's stopping you? Complacency, that's what!
If perhaps you were saying to yourself, "I want to save my marriage", take the bull by the horns and rekindle the spark. Considering that, isn't the spark what brought you together originally?
Do you remember your very first date together? Where was it? What did you do? What were you wearing? Was it raining, cold, sunny, was it warm? What made your day special? Talk about this together with your spouse. Reminisce. Bring back the emotions you experienced on that day. After all, on that day led to another and the next and eventually into a proposal, right? Go back in time. You'll see the passion once again make each other's eyes sparkle. Oh, the butterflies on that day! Remember? Bring out the photos from when you initially met. Look at the way you looked at each other! Oh, the love!
If you are a couple with children, you understand their needs take precedence over your own. This is how and when a couple's passion passes the wayside without realizing it. Remember, at first you're separate individuals with like interests which brought you together as a couple in the first place. Those interests were an essential aspect in your hearts uniting and wanting to spend your whole lives together. Remember? Remember? Good, that's a start! Surprise your spouse with a valentine's day card in August. Bring home flowers for no reason at all. Sneak up behind your spouse while making dinner or doing the laundry and kiss his/her neck. Spark the tingle that results in a passionate kiss (and maybe more!). Remind yourselves of the passion you shared spontaneously once upon a time ago!
Setting aside a date night is a thing you hear regularly. That too can become routine and boring. Instead, you could start to set up a bucket list and begin checking off all the items one at a time together! What were your dreams when you became a couple? Did you imagine riding a hot air balloon? Learning how to kayak? Do you wish to learn to water ski? What were your dreams? Dreams are supposed to be realized. They are whatever you look forward to achieving. I'm not referring to becoming president of your company that you work. On the other hand, perhaps you have imagined leaving the business enterprise and gone into business for yourselves? What's stopping you? Complacency, that's what!
If perhaps you were saying to yourself, "I want to save my marriage", take the bull by the horns and rekindle the spark. Considering that, isn't the spark what brought you together originally?
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